Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] My wife and I were talking last night.
[00:00:03] She said that the men that she works with, that their wives let them go to like strip clubs and stuff like that.
[00:00:14] And I don't know, that thought never really crossed my mind to go to one while I was married.
[00:00:22] But it seems a commonplace thing nowadays, or it's probably always been a commonplace thing, but it's just now like I'm understanding that this is a thing.
[00:00:37] That's the thing about me. I'm always behind on the times because I'm just focused on what I'm doing.
[00:00:46] So much so that I'm isolated to the like, because I focus on my, on what I'm doing. So much so that I'm not in the mix of like society, like what's, what's happening.
[00:01:03] I guess it can be a good and a bad thing. Anyways, so she was, we were talking about that and it's like, would I let myself do that or would she let me do that or would I let her do that? And as far as going to like a strip bar, topless bar, whatever.
[00:01:28] I, I wouldn't be okay with it and then flip it too. Like, would I be okay going and telling her, like I'm gonna, I mean, no, because it, it. That's temptation to lust after Jesus. Jesus says if, if a man looks at a woman with, looks at a woman with lust in his heart, he has already committed adult. If a man looks at woman lustfully, he's already committed adultery in his heart and adultery is cheating on your wife.
[00:02:21] And that's, and that's interesting me to me because it comes from your, from your, your brain, like your mind and like your heart, right?
[00:02:32] And, and that's look is with your eyes, like you've not physically touched another woman or physically been with another woman. You've only looked at the woman lustfully.
[00:02:50] He says if you've done that, you've already committed adultery. So why am I going to subject myself to going to a strip bar, topless bar, to look at half naked women or naked women.
[00:03:07] And in my lifetime I've only been to a topless bar like a handful of times.
[00:03:14] It was like when I was in the world like before God and believing, believing God through faith and all this stuff.
[00:03:22] I had only been a handful of time. I never really, I was never really one to like go all the time. It's kind of weird to say, but I was always focused on like my band making music, just the creative avenues in my life.
[00:03:40] But I wouldn't be okay with it. And My wife brought up something interesting and she said I was like, why? Like, how come?
[00:03:46] Like, just like if it was to happen, like, why would we say no to that? Or why would I say no to that? Why would she say no to that?
[00:03:54] She was saying it's more of a risk of respect to the marriage.
[00:04:02] Respecting your marriage, not.
[00:04:04] And of course respecting the other person, but you're respecting the covenant of marriage that we were respecting the covenant of marriage that we put ourselves into.
[00:04:15] The decision that we put ourselves into. Even still, if I were thinking about it now, if I wasn't married, would I go like, knowing what I know about the Bible and what Jesus says, no, I wouldn't go.
[00:04:31] My choice would be like, no. Like even.
[00:04:35] It's really deep for me as a man because I'm a, I'm a, I'm a visual.
[00:04:41] Men are visual, right? We.
[00:04:44] That's why, that's why women on social. I don't. This is just my thought. That's. This is why women put nice looking pictures of themselves, right?
[00:04:56] So that men can look.
[00:04:59] This is why women put on makeup, wear a certain type of clothes to get. Not all women, just some women, you know, some women are just like, to look nice and whatever. I mean, I'm not an expert on this or anything, but just from what I see, the man is very visual, right?
[00:05:18] And going to like a. One of those types of bars.
[00:05:27] You're putting yourself into it, putting yourself into it and being like caught off guard is different because it could be a woman on social media that like I'm just scrolling and it just pops up. I'm like, whoa, you know what I mean?
[00:05:42] And just. And that's on social media. That's not even in the physical. Like you're not even in the, of the physical presence of that woman and you, and you. For in my mind I'm already lusting like wanting to fall into that temptation of lust, right?
[00:06:02] So in my marriage, and I think it's good for marriages is to just stay away from that.
[00:06:09] Stay away.
[00:06:10] It's. It's a male. I think it's a male instinct that we have to deny, right? That's, that's what basically being a quote unquote Christian is a Bible believer is, is to deny that for yourself because it's a, it's a fleshly sinful thing to want to do.
[00:06:35] So like you're dying to yourself instead of looking at, like that if, if it presents itself.
[00:06:43] I know, like you unknowingly, like that lust, that lustful temptation get rid of it. Put an X, ban the person, unfollow their account, hide whatever you have to do on social media or even in the flesh to not look at it again.
[00:07:02] And I'm not saying I'm perfect because, I mean, you know, I'm, I'm, I'm human and I'm susceptible to this type of stuff, and it does happen, but for the majority of it, I'm able to be like, no, I can't do that, you know, because it's respecting my marriage, it's respecting my, my walk, my biblical, the, the biblical perspective that I'm striving to live in my life.
[00:07:34] So that I think that's huge as far as respecting the marriage and stuff like that. And I, I can't think of. And when my wife and I were discussing this, I'm like, why, why does this happen? Like, I, and then I, I, I think back, why? I know, because it's, this is a, it's. We live in a sinful world about being in the world, but not of the world, which is why, why it exists, right? And, and when I see couples do that, I'm like, why y' all doing that to yourselves? You know, what, why is the woman let. Why is the woman letting the man do that? Do that? Or why is the man letting the woman do that?
[00:08:20] But it's a, it's a carnal thing. It's something that we're like, oh, like some, sometimes some people are all about like, like science. I don't know what all that stuff is, but it's the thing where, like, oh, this is a human thing to do, so we're going to do it.
[00:08:36] But even at that, it's like, where do you draw the line? Like, if you have a significant other, like, where's the line drawn? You know, when you say, enough is enough, or, or, oh, you could only do this one time. You know what I mean? Even if you're like, oh, you can only do this once a week, it seems like it's one of those things where it turns from once a week to like three times a month, four times a month. And then eventually you're, you're constantly looking at other women other than the woman you're supposed to be in, you know, looking at.
[00:09:10] And it even says, like in Proverbs, chapter, either chapter four, five, six, or seven, I can't remember which one it was, but it talks about for the, the man to be intoxicated with his wife.
[00:09:27] Be intoxicated with his wife, like, and let her Fountain like. Like fill you. Let her. Her.
[00:09:39] You know her. Her woman parts fulfill you and intoxicate you. And. And I think that's. That's huge.
[00:09:47] And instead of letting. Like here, here it is right here. Proverbs, chapter 5, verse 15. It says, Drink from. Drink from your own cistern. Flowing water from your own well.
[00:09:58] Should your springs be scattered abroad. Streams of water in the streets.
[00:10:03] Let them be for yourself alone and not for strangers with you. Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice in the wife of your youth.
[00:10:13] A lovely deer, a graceful dough. Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight.
[00:10:20] Be intoxicated always in her love.
[00:10:24] Why should you be intoxicated, my son, with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
[00:10:33] For a man's ways are before the eyes of the Lord, and he ponders all his paths.
[00:10:39] The iniquities of the wicked ensnare him, and he is held fast in the courts of his sin. This is Proverbs, chapter 5, where it talks about it. It has warnings against adultery, which is basically what I'm talking about here.
[00:10:54] Let your. Let your. Your water be your own like. Be from your own well, from your own spring, which is your. Your. Your marriage, like your. Your own marriage. Let.
[00:11:05] Let it be for yourself alone and not for others.
[00:11:09] You're inviting. What. When you're doing that, it seems like you're. We're inviting others into our marriage.
[00:11:15] Other. Other women. That's why. I think that's why Jesus was said that where if you look at a woman lustfully, you've already committed adultery in your heart.
[00:11:28] I think it's in Matthew or somewhere. I'll try to put the scripture, if you know what scripture that is, put it in the comments below.
[00:11:35] If not, I'll try to put it on there. But it says, why should you be intoxicated with a forbidden woman and embrace the bosom of an adulteress?
[00:11:45] And it says to let. Let your fountain be blessed and rejoice in the wife of your youth. Like God. Look. Look at this. Rejoice in your wife, in the wife of your youth, and rejoice in your wife and not in other women outside of your marriage.
[00:12:01] You know, hence looking at women on social media, going to, you know, they even have restaurants where women are basically, you know, half naked.
[00:12:13] You know that. I mean, and there's a whole culture which, like. Oh, a whole culture that's basically against biblical perspective, right? That.
[00:12:27] And there's a constant fighting against each other where people think it's okay. People don't think it's okay, but you know, as far as the Bible is concerned, it's not okay.
[00:12:38] And that's one of basically, one of the ways that I live my life is through a what the Bible says about how I should approach life.
[00:12:51] So anyways, thanks a lot you guys for listening to this episode.
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