Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] I go to the gym. As a man, I have to be able to keep my eyes focused on what I'm doing, keep myself focused on what I'm doing.
[00:00:10] Because there's women out there that will.
[00:00:14] That want your attention.
[00:00:16] It's, it's a fact, right? You go to the gym, there's ladies that are dressed with tight clothing, right?
[00:00:25] Every time I go and I'm focused on, on doing my thing, there's always one woman, two women, three women, however many that are there, trying to get my attention or any male's attention in the gym, right?
[00:00:41] The way I respond is by positioning myself to, to not have my vision on any, on that woman, whether it's the side of my eye, the front of my eye, side of the other eye, whatever.
[00:00:56] So if they're in front of me, I turn and face the other direction or I go to a different spot where I can't see them at all. And a lot of times I find myself facing, facing a wall, doing my, doing my routine.
[00:01:13] And then this is what happens when I decide to focus instead of focusing on women.
[00:01:21] I, I hear these women in behind me. They get upset because they're not getting my attention. I'm not giving it to them, so they get upset.
[00:01:31] How do I know? Because they're, they're banging the weights on the floor or they're going up to like the nap, the, the paper towel dispenser and pushing it really hard.
[00:01:41] You know what I mean?
[00:01:44] So that, I mean, don't get me wrong, like, it's tempting to want to look, right? It's tempting.
[00:01:50] That's just a part of being a man. It's tempting to want to look at those women and gawk at them. But that, that would take the focus off me. That would take the focus off what I'm doing.
[00:02:01] Plus, it, it, it, it would cause me to entertain lustful thoughts. I mean, I'm married, you know, and my. I'm not saying that that marriage is the main reason why, to avoid those lustful thoughts. It's, it. You should be doing it outside of marriage, avoiding those thoughts. And it's very difficult nowadays because it's just very difficult in society because women are taught, not women, but I don't want to say that they're taught, but just look how they're dressed.
[00:02:35] Like, look how they, how much makeup they have on.
[00:02:38] All these things contribute to that factor. So I'm constantly having to, even in the workplace, I'm constantly having to, to keep my eyes fixed on, on what I'm doing that day. I'm at work. I'm at. I'm at work to work. I'm not here to flirt. You know, I've. I've got a wife. That's another thing which my wife is. She. She's the one that's. That.
[00:03:02] That I do like to look at and, and have those thoughts about because she's obviously my wife. And I get to have, you know, marriage relations with her.
[00:03:14] I mean, that's the whole. That. That's the goodness of marriage, of being married, is that you can. You have a person there to have marital relationships with intimacy and those types of things. But we've misconstrued it. We've taken those. That intimacy and. And those types of marital relations outside of the marriage bed. Right? Because we act upon lust. We act upon promiscuity in a society. Deteriorates. Deteriorates because of that. Right? So me, if I go to the gym, I see a woman that's half naked, has tight stuff, and she positions herself in front of me or next to me. Boom. I move, I'm gone. I'm running, I'm. I'm out of there. I go to a different part of the gym or a different space in the gym where, where I'm. I'm avoiding that. That woman.
[00:04:10] And they try and they fight tooth and nail to try to get in your vision. And then finally, like, some of them, they figure it out and they leave. They're gone. Which is cool because, like, some, like there are. What I mean by that is there are some women that do respect a man that is trying to do that, and they, you know, they, they remove themselves from the situation.
[00:04:38] I mean, I don't know if it is good, because a lot of times they'll go to another man because there's more. There's. There's. There's. There's a bunch of men in the gym. So if I'm not giving them that. That.
[00:04:49] If I'm not giving them that supply, they go and find it somewhere else.
[00:04:54] Right?
[00:04:55] And props to. The. Props to the women that. That don't have tight clothing on that. That have, you know, they have. Some of them had, like, they have a baggy shirt, they have baggy shorts. Like, not. Not there to. To show their stuff off, but there to actually work out. Props to them. Like you. We. I noticed them too. Like the other girl the other day, there was a girl that was working out next to me. She had, you know, she looked modest. She looked like she was trying to be modest, trying to Work out.
[00:05:24] But at the same time, like, I could, like, I could tell she was like, like she was like attracted to me and why and watching what I was doing, right? The reason why I know this is because after I finished my workout, I worked to the. I walked to the. The paper towel dispenser and she kind of like, she walks to like meet me there. Like, I can tell that.
[00:05:45] But I'm married and I'm not trying to act upon. I'm not trying to talk to other women. I'm married, you know, that. That's just. Those are my values, those are my morals. I choose to be with my wife the rest of my life. Right? I mean, and I even have like my marriage ring on. And you know, anyway, so the girl's there and she's trying, she's nice to me. Like, she's actually like, like, you go ahead first, go ahead and get some paper towels first. And I'm like, no, go ahead. Like, go ahead. I got. I gotta do this other stuff over here. Go ahead, that's fine. But just those little gestures, like from some women. I don't want to say all women because it's. It. You really have to work hard to find the. That, what that woman, the. The right woman, the white right wife for you. Right? And if you're going to the gym to try to find it, it's even more difficult because there's. There's plenty of women out there that are trying to find. Trying to, you know, wanting attention, that are wanting to get some type of man that, that will give them attention, you know.
[00:06:54] So you got to kind of have to vet it out, figure it out and other places you can go is to like, you know, so anyways, I'm gonna go into her rabbit hole and other stuff. But anyways, if keeping my, my eyes fixed on what I'm doing is, is one of the things that is it. It's self control. You're controlling yourself to not act lustfully or act on promiscuity that the woman portrays. You know, and men could be guilty of this too. Like, because there's men that, that have tight clothing on. Like they have. Their muscles are bulging out, you know, And I myself have to try to be. To try to, to, to dress modestly because like, if I'm working out and if I'm doing my thing. Excuse me.
[00:07:40] And I feel like I'm fit and I look good. Like there's times when, when I want to like, show show off, you know, and for men, it's even it. It's. If you. It's difficult for men as well, you know, so.
[00:07:54] But both end of the spectrums. I don't want to say that one gender is to blame. Both of us are, you know, we both do it, so self control is huge in that aspect.
