Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] What's going on, y'? All? Susie, Larry Hernandez here, doing my daily vlog here.
[00:00:05] So just had a podcast episode with, on the Corpse Christie Originals podcast and it had, I had, I was featuring Melanie Sandoval, a doula in South Texas, Corpus Christi, Texas area doula. D O U L A and they're basically a, I want to say like a mental health practitioner for pregnant women.
[00:00:33] I'm not sure exactly how to describe it, but yeah, she, she, it was pretty cool.
[00:00:39] You can look up what, what a doula is online and it's totally different from a midwife.
[00:00:44] But anyways, we were talking about her passion and stuff like that and then we were got into the topics of community, family, father's mother's mental health, immigration. She's a first generation Mexican American.
[00:01:00] Very, very cool conversation, but we were talking about family and how it's, it's like totally different nowadays and it's just like destroyed, you know, you know, the family system, mother and father, kids, you know, like the mother and father are separated, mother parents are divorced, my dad remarried, my mom remarried and having these different type of mixed families. But anyway, I'm also thinking about the, the teen pregnant women here in South Texas, in Corpus Christi, Texas.
[00:01:38] And you know, they don't really know a lot about their bodies, how their, how their bodies react to having a baby or other body. Bodies are developing. Even if they're teens, they're still basically kind of adolescents, children, you know, having children and how much of an impact it could have on them, on their kid, on their family. Like it's totally, it's a societal, societal issue having teen pregnant mothers, you know, and having even at that like teen, teen fathers. Like, can you imagine?
[00:02:14] I mean some people get married young, stay together for a long time, stay together till death, you know, and have kids and stuff like that. Some people don't. I mean, just if we could stay together in marriage and learn how to be married for the long haul, you know, and not, not abuse each other emotionally, physically, mentally and, and actually, you know, have a life together and learn how to be married, talk to each other, communicate all these things, you know, all the good things that we can think about whenever we think about two people being together for the rest of their life. Right?
[00:02:55] So if we, I think society would be a lot better if we could stay together, you know, and there's a lot of selfish people out there, you know, a lot of people that, that will use women, that will use men, you know, will use their children.
[00:03:11] And it's like how do we get away from that? You know, And I can't help but like think about the belief system. Like, like, I believe that, that God instituted marriage. He created marriage to be a certain way.
[00:03:25] And if we don't stick to that way, then basically it's, it's the wrong way, you know, it's, it's, it's opposite or contrary to a biblical perspective and things can get out of hand and we can be selfish and not, and not even. And totally forget about God, you know, if, if we're, if that couple is a believer or whatever, if they're believers and can totally forget about God and not even care about what he thinks about marriage, you know, and we can have it from our own perspective, our own mind thoughts on marriage. And we could just like not even want to get married, but still have kids with somebody, you know, And I think there's statistics that are, that show like that the couple that, that gets married first and then has kids is more likely to stay together as opposed to the, to the couple that has kids first and then gets married. I mean, you put the, the buggy before the horse type of thing, you know, And I think that we need that more in society, man. And it's sad to think about couples, they don't stay together. People that don't stay together and, and have kids with multiple different partners and sleep around and stuff like that. I think it's bad for society.
[00:04:46] I mean, you think about disease, disease that may be caused by that type of lifestyle from people, you know, But I just wish in society we could stay together longer, you know.
[00:04:59] She also mentioned Melanie in the Corpse Chris Originals podcast for episode 94, women's edition number two.
[00:05:07] Melanie Sandoval, she was also talking about men's mental health. Right.
[00:05:14] You know, how much that has an effect on being, you know, that, that the man grew up with that. Like in Hispanic culture, men grew up to not, not express themselves, not to say anything, not to, you know, there's a lot of anger in them. And I can kind of relate to that too, because when I got married I had a lot of problems communicating with my wife.
[00:05:39] And she and Melanie had mentioned that, you know, in our, in my culture, in our culture that men are just. Women just are raised to like, not cry, not say anything, just to, just to do their work, you know, and the only time they lift their head up is to go to another task, you know, And I feel that till, till this day. And I think it's, it's a good work, work ethic. You know, it's a good thing to have but at the same time at, don't sacrifice your, your mental health. You know, as a man be. Learn how to, how to talk, how to speak to another person.
[00:06:16] Learn it now that way when, when you do get married, you decide to get married, that you know how to communicate with people with your wife, with your spouse, with, with, you know, your friends, your family.
[00:06:27] You know, we also had, I also mentioned the topic of narcissism that their narcissists want to keep you within their boundaries, you know, want to keep you under their, their grip. You know, they want you to just live for them.
[00:06:41] And it's difficult for a person that lived in that abuse whenever they go by, go off by themselves. It's hard to live for themselves because they've always lived for the narcissistic partner, the narcissistic mother, whoever the narcissistic was, Narcissistic person was prevalent in their life that per, that person would live for them. Right?
[00:07:04] So just that in society is bad too. And then he throws social media in the mix.
[00:07:10] Anybody. Everybody's got an opinion, everybody's got a comment. You know, you follow your friends, your friends follow your friends and then you're, you're still in high school again.
[00:07:18] You're still in high school again. Trying to impress and please your, your group of friends that this is the way to go and everybody does the same thing. And you really don't even get to do what you want to do because you're, you're so heavily influenced by your friends or by those narcissistic members of society.
[00:07:37] So it was a really good conversation that Melanie and I had on episode 94 of the Corpus Christi Originals podcast. I wish her well. She's got three kids, she's single.
[00:07:49] At 13 months pregnant, she was diagnosed with a brain tumor.
[00:07:52] So to even throw that all that adversity, she created these, you know, this doula agency in South Texas and you know, had these, this creation, started a business basically. It's awesome man, to, to see that.
[00:08:07] And I mentioned to her too that she kind of embodies like what, what a Latina is or you know, that they're very strong minded, don't say no crap from nobody type of old school, you know, first generation Mexican American mentality, which is cool. It reminded me, she reminded me a lot of my, my cousin cousins on the Hernandez side.
[00:08:30] I mean I had, I got like upwards of 30 cousins. You know, my dad had 13 siblings and my grandmother was, I want to say She. I think my dad was first generation Mexican American thinking about that. But yeah, my cousins, like, they don't put up with nothing, you know, you know, don't, don't, don't. Don't do nothing to them, you know what I mean? Be. Treat them right, you know, that type of thing. So it reminded me of that. My cousins out there, hope they're doing all right. They're in San Antonio.
[00:09:03] They've been out there for a while. I'm thinking specifically about my cousins.
[00:09:09] Yeah, that had went out there, went to school and stayed out there. It's cool. And Melanie was also mentioning that she lived in San Antonio for a little while and that the community in San Antonio is. Is.
[00:09:21] It's obviously bigger and they're more likely to. To kind of get behind you and help you out through your, you know, through your journey.
[00:09:29] And I think it kind of is a little bit like that in Corpus. It just seems like it's a smaller town mentality.
[00:09:38] It's a smaller city, obviously.
[00:09:40] And I just hope that. I just pray that my community in South Texas, Corpus Christi, Texas, gets better for the sake of itself, you know, and these topics that we were mentioning, mental health, you know, mental health in men, marriage, family, that. These values, I. I hope that they get a little bit more ingrained in our belief systems and we have a biblical perspective on it.
[00:10:21] That would be so cool, you know, And I can't help but think of all the, you know, all the arguments that somebody could have toward that. Oh, well, I don't believe in the Bible, and I believe that the universe and this and that, which is. I mean, you can have those beliefs, you know, but my belief is, you know, it. Anything other than biblical is perspective is secular.
[00:10:42] And it won't. I don't think it'll last, basically, because the only kingdom that will ask is God's kingdom. And we're here, down here, trying to build our own kingdoms.
[00:10:55] And the only kingdom, the only king that's going to stand, I mean, the king of king, the Lord of Lords is Jesus, right?
[00:11:02] The King of Kings and the Lord of Lords, basically his kingdom is the only kingdom that's going to. To remain and stand and. And still have among all the other kingdoms that we're trying to build. His kingdom is the best kingdom. It's. It's the one that's the only. It's the only one that's gonna withstand all this secularism, all this, you know, all these thoughts that are modern and, you know, not biblical. Basically, God's gonna allow us. His kingdom is going to outlast any of those. So anyways, hope I left it on a good note for you guys. Thanks a lot for listening for watching the podcast.
[00:11:41] Check out my other podcast if you're interested. Corpus Christi Originals Podcast.
[00:11:45] Corpus Christi Originals Podcast. Check that out. I'm at episode 94.
[00:11:50] I can't remember which episode I'm on this one. But anyways, thanks a lot you guys, for listening, for watching. Let me know what you think in the comments about what I'm talking about. And yeah, have a good one. Bye.
