Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] What's going on, y' all? This is a video on pride is actually a compile a video compiled of six different videos that I did, each individually on my YouTube channel. And it's. They're on pride regarding the main topic of pride, right? And then another video on relationships, another one on success, another one on spiritual life, and another one on conflict. All these have to do with pride, pride and conflict, pride in spiritual life, pride and success, pride in relationships, and just pride in general. So the, the individual videos are on the channel. So I just took the time to put them all together on one single video. And you can refer to the timestamps to check out each video or you can watch.
[00:00:48] You can refer to the timestamps to check out where each video ends or each video begins on this video. And you can also check out the each individual video in the playlist on overcoming pride as a Christian.
[00:01:04] Without further ado, enjoy. Thank y' all. What's going on, y' all Talking about pride today, this thing is huge, especially when you're looking at it from a biblical perspective and you're a Christian trying to overcome pride.
[00:01:21] So overcoming pride as a Christian is something that we have to do as Christians.
[00:01:30] I'm going to share with you six different things that you can do that can help you to overcome pride.
[00:01:36] And they're very. They're.
[00:01:40] You're going to leave with six different things to figure out how to overcome pride. And I'm going to share my experiences with it and be in the fight with you. Be along here with you.
[00:01:52] Excuse me.
[00:01:54] The first thing you got to do is confess your pride.
[00:01:58] Proverbs, chapter 16, verse 18 says, Pride goes before destruction and an arrogant spirit before a fall.
[00:02:05] Recognize pride as a sin.
[00:02:10] It's very difficult to confess to, to say that you're prideful because for one, you may not know what that you are being prideful to begin with.
[00:02:21] And you could just ask. You can ask God to help you. You can ask the Holy Spirit to help you.
[00:02:28] David did it in all over psalms. Like, was it creating me a clean heart to test my heart? Oh, God, right. That's. That's. I, I can't know exactly which psalm, but. But he's David's like, test my heart, right? I believe that's a prayer.
[00:02:47] It's either that prayer or other ones that David talks about. Like, like, look at me, searching me deep in me. Oh, God, right?
[00:02:55] You ask God. God, help me. Let me know when I'm prideful.
[00:03:00] Help me with your Holy Spirit. Grant me wisdom to understand and see when I'm being proud.
[00:03:06] And God will show you. God will show you.
[00:03:11] You can, you can pray for humility. That's the second thing.
[00:03:16] Philippians chapter 2, 3 says, do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility, consider others as important than yourselves.
[00:03:27] Seek God's help to develop a humble heart.
[00:03:31] When I read this verse sometimes, okay, in my experience, there has been people that will use this for their own selfish gain, because they will use that humility that you're striving for for themselves.
[00:03:50] And they'll say, like, they'll gaslight you with this, this verse. It's happened to me before. Like, oh, God says to be like this. You're supposed to be selfish. You're not supposed to be selfish. You're not supposed to be conceited.
[00:04:06] In this end, the narcissistic church member will say this to you to bend to the, to their whims or to whatever they want you to do.
[00:04:17] Still, in humility, humility does not mean to lose respect for yourself.
[00:04:24] You can pray for humility.
[00:04:26] And in my opinion, in my experience, humility is not to disrespect yourself. That's not what it is.
[00:04:37] If you think about it.
[00:04:39] Humility is the opposite of pride. And to have humility means to have self control, patience, because you want to be prideful in doing the things that you want to do out of, out of pride. You want to be proud, you want to be. You want to hold to that, that machismo or whatever you want to call it.
[00:05:04] Three, follow Jesus example.
[00:05:07] Imitate Christ's humility and service. Look at this. John, chapter 13, verse 15. For he gave you an example that you also should do as he as. Okay, John, chapter 13, verse 15. For I have given you an example that you also should do as I have done to you.
[00:05:28] This is Jesus in John, chapter 13, verse 15.
[00:05:34] In this particular passage, he washes the feet of the disciples.
[00:05:41] He washes the feet of his disciples. Think about that.
[00:05:47] You're in an argument with somebody, with an enemy, with somebody that you don't like, and the last thing on your mind is to wash that person's feet, right?
[00:06:03] These are the disciples. These are the guys that when he was on the cross, when he was going through all that persecution, before going to the cross, that were nowhere near him, like Peter denied him so many times.
[00:06:18] And he tells, like, after his resurrection, he. He appears to them, he tell Thomas, he's like, look at the hole in my hand.
[00:06:27] Look at the, the.
[00:06:30] Where the sword where the spear pierced me on my side.
[00:06:35] Jesus knew. Jesus knew these guys were going to, like, flee, you know what I mean? And, and even one of them was going to betray him.
[00:06:46] One of them. He knew one of them was going to betray him. And what, he washed. He washed their feet.
[00:06:52] If that's not the passage, if it answer this question, help me answer this question in the comments. The. Did Jesus wash Judas's feet?
[00:07:02] The disciple who betrayed him, number four, serve others for the Son of man. Mark chapter 10, verse 45 says, for the Son of man also came not to be served, but to serve and to give his life as a ransom for many. Wow.
[00:07:19] Act selflessly without seeking recognition.
[00:07:23] Wow. How prideless is that?
[00:07:25] When we're prideful, we want to receive all the credit.
[00:07:29] We want all the credit. Like, oh, I did that. That's by my own making.
[00:07:34] I'm the person that made that person look good. You know what I mean?
[00:07:39] That's proud. You understand what pride is because you feel like it's wrong. That's one of the things that I learned.
[00:07:46] Like, the more I read God's word and the more I understand how God wants me to be through, through reading the Bible, reading proverbs, reading about pride in proverbs, understanding Jesus's life on earth, even, even Old Testament, like some, some of the Older Testament, all the, you know, the, the, the forefathers, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, all these stories you learn about pride. So you learn to understand. Like, oh, wait, this, wait a minute. This is prideful. Like, you feel it in your gut. That's when you need to, like, change it, right? And when you serve others and learn not to seek recognition, that's difficult. When, when you come from being proudful and proud and PR and prideful in a sense where you're, you want the credit, right?
[00:08:40] Try to do something like, that's one thing you can do. Exercise that.
[00:08:45] Serving others, right? Think about, think about a server at a restaurant. You know, somebody that serves you, the waitress, the waiter, they're serving you, right?
[00:08:58] And how, and how do some people treat them? Like, like crap. Like, they treat them bad because they know they can. Because that's how servers are treated.
[00:09:06] You know, they're in a humble position, right? That's why some waiters and waitresses are, are.
[00:09:14] Can't handle the job or can't handle the job, you know, so. And I'm not saying to put yourself in a situation where you're going to be abused. Don't do that. If you're in that situation, you need to tell somebody, get out of that situation, you know, don't do that. But when you serve others, you, you do something for somebody without accepting anything in return.
[00:09:37] That, that is, that will help you to be humble.
[00:09:43] 15. Meditate on Scripture.
[00:09:46] James chapter 4, verse 6.
[00:09:48] God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble. Wow, listen to that.
[00:09:54] God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.
[00:09:59] Let God's word transform your mindset.
[00:10:03] That's huge.
[00:10:04] It's been a huge thing for me because you understand, you understand God's word, you learn to understand God's word. Like that. God is reverent. God is, you know, fear the Lord as it says in Proverbs chapter 1, verse 7. The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
[00:10:25] His Word will show you humility.
[00:10:29] Read the Psalms. You can read how David was prideful towards it.
[00:10:34] You know, he would, David was asking, was telling God to basically like harm his enemies, you know, and God being a God of forgiveness through Jesus Christ, like he, God even gives our enemies a chance for redemption, right?
[00:10:55] Like, so you learn God's word, you learn it. Proverbs is a huge one for me. Where I started was the letters.
[00:11:05] Excuse me?
[00:11:07] I started in the letters because when I started reading the Bible I was at a college age and my reading level was sub par. It was elementary. A lot of the words in the Bible I did not, I was like, what does this mean? What does this mean? I had to constantly in the dictionary look up the word, like every other word. So I was very illiterate when I started reading the Bible. So I picked short books in the Bible or letters like, like Ephesians, Galatians, Philippians, James, 1st Peter, 2nd Peter. Real short letters, right? That way I can finish, I, I can finish one and feel like I had a victory. Okay, all right. I, I read a little bit of the Bible. Cool. You know what I mean? It's a short victory for me. Then I landed on Proverbs. Oh my gosh. Proverbs is full of wisdom. As you can see, my channel channel is named Random Bible Proverb, right?
[00:12:05] There's so much wisdom in there. Meditate on it. And when you're. I know I don't meditate on Scripture, like saying a verse over and over. I used to, I don't know why I stopped. But what I, I read so much the Bible that whenever I'm in situations where the Holy Spirit is telling me, remember this scripture that you read.
[00:12:31] And I'll remember it like, oh shoot, I remember reading this somewhere and Then I won't remember exactly where it's at. And then later on, oh, yeah, this is where it's at.
[00:12:41] You know what I mean? Scripture is huge. Read scripture last thing.
[00:12:45] Welcome Correction.
[00:12:47] Proverbs, chapter 15, verse 32. He who refuses correction goes astray. But he who listens to reproof shows understanding. Embrace feedback to grow.
[00:13:01] Feedback can come from. From anywhere.
[00:13:06] Make sure it's. It's.
[00:13:08] You have to sift feedback as well, because you could have somebody that just wants to. To feel overpowering towards you. And there are. There is feedback that comes from, say, a boss that you don't like, but you know that. But you have to understand that they're in a place of authority for a reason, right? So if they're telling me to do something or I did something wrong, learn how to accept it. Because, like, in the past, I've been like, that guy doesn't know what he's talking about. He just doesn't like me.
[00:13:43] Forget him. Why do I have to listen to him? That's pride.
[00:13:46] So we have to learn, okay?
[00:13:49] I'm not fully grown. I'm not perfect, right? And we have to learn, okay, Maybe I'm in a situation where I don't know everything, right? Because you can be if you feel like, you know, pride will cause you to feel like you know everything and you don't need help from anybody, right? I'm not saying that it. To not go and work alone, because I, I'm. I'm a huge person, proponent of learning how to work on my own, to work by myself, right?
[00:14:20] But I'm saying if you don't know something, ask somebody, ask questions. That's a huge thing. On my personal channel, I'm ADD adhd. I talk about asking questions. Like the importance of asking questions for a person like me is important because if you don't ask questions, if you don't, if. If you're not willing to learn something, then you're not willing to grow.
[00:14:46] When you ask questions, that's when you learn to grow.
[00:14:51] So welcome correction. Embrace feedback. To grow.
[00:14:56] And always remember that God is the center point. No pastor, no person, no kids, children, nothing. Your parents, grandparents, no God, Jesus Christ. That's the focal point.
[00:15:11] That's where you always tether back to.
[00:15:16] Tether back to the word. What does God say? Because, I mean, I'm not saying you don't. Don't learn how to have people that are in authority over you.
[00:15:24] I'm saying don't make them the ultimate authority to where their word becomes more Important than God's word. That's all I'm saying.
[00:15:37] So last thing, here's the takeaway here. Here's the thing that you can do. You can journal prideful moments, confess them to God and pray for humility. There's four things that can help you overcome pride in relationships. As a Christian. First thing is to admit relational pride.
[00:15:59] Proverbs chapter 16, verse 18 says, Pride goes before destruction and an arrogant spirit before a fall. Recognize when you prioritize self over others.
[00:16:10] This is very difficult to do because you want your way. A lot of times we want our way and we will, we will manipulate and use and extort those closest to us to get what we want.
[00:16:28] Whether it would be through gaslighting. I think about these narcissistic terms like gaslighting, flying monkeys, all the things that a narcissistic person basically would. Would use.
[00:16:47] And we ourselves will be. Have been guilty of it.
[00:16:53] Learning how to receive no in a relationship or learning how to let the person be that who they are.
[00:17:03] I remember when I got married, I learned a lot of stuff about my wife that I didn't know before getting married. Been married 10 plus years.
[00:17:12] A lot of stuff. So I had to learn how to be humble in that aspect to where that person I had to be. Like, okay, maybe you just need to let her be her.
[00:17:28] Stop trying to control. Stop trying to.
[00:17:33] Stop trying to force her to be somebody that she is not.
[00:17:39] Let her be who she is. Find out who she is.
[00:17:45] Like for instance, my why I learned that my wife is add. She's on the autism spectrum.
[00:17:52] So I learned about autism.
[00:17:54] Like, oh shoot, no wonder, you know what I mean?
[00:17:58] So admit that you have relational pride. Admit it to yourself. Be. Be honest with yourself. Second thing, pray for selfish selflessness.
[00:18:09] Pray for selflessness.
[00:18:12] Philippians chapter 2, verse 4 says, Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interest of others.
[00:18:22] Ask God to help you.
[00:18:24] Ask God to help you value others needs. Now this verse, when I hear this verse, I know that there is people in the church that will use it for their selfish gain.
[00:18:42] Especially narcissists will use it for.
[00:18:46] To gaslight you. To guilt trip you into. Into.
[00:18:51] Here it is again like for them to continue to be prideful. They will use this verse. I've had it used on me before by my mother who is very selfish.
[00:19:04] For instance, like this doesn't mean. Okay, look, look. Each of you. Let each of you look not only to his own interest, but also to the interest of others.
[00:19:15] This doesn't mean to. To disrespect yourself and only look at the other person's interest and not yours. Right? Because you're a person as well. You need self respect. You need self control.
[00:19:27] So Respect yourself for 1 and 2.
[00:19:31] Respect others, write the interest of others.
[00:19:36] Taking a person's conversation, listen to what they're saying.
[00:19:39] You know what I mean? That's. Which is. This is the third thing.
[00:19:42] Listen actively. James 1:19.
[00:19:46] So, my beloved brothers, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger.
[00:19:54] Hear others without seeking to dominate.
[00:20:01] Prideful people will listen to others for their selfish gain because they'll use what they heard to continue to be proud.
[00:20:14] You us, on the other hand, people that are trying to change from pride to humility, we will listen to others to show respect for them, to understand that they're a person as well.
[00:20:30] Right?
[00:20:31] Talking about relationships in general. Right.
[00:20:36] We have to learn to respect the other person by listening to them, by seeking to understand their point of view.
[00:20:47] Because if you're especially like if you're in a church in the body of Christ, you gotta learn that there's other people that are not like. You gotta learn that other. There's other people that are different from you.
[00:21:01] I've been like, personal, personal experience. I've been to churches where people don't accept me because.
[00:21:09] Because I'm part of the autistic, adhd, neurodivergent culture.
[00:21:15] I'm not your normal person. I go against the grain. I ask questions. And I notice that there's certain churches that want you to be a certain way.
[00:21:24] They want you to fit into their mold, and I just don't fit into it.
[00:21:28] I. My brain is wired differently, you know, and it got to the point in my experience where those people, they just, they don't accept you. They make fun of you behind your back.
[00:21:40] You know what I mean? The church leaders will make fun of you behind your back. And that's not a fun place to be for me. That's why I chose to, you know, refrain from going to churches that are like that.
[00:21:54] When you find out that they're like that, it's like, dude, really, you know, anyway, that, that's just my personal experience. We gotta learn that there's other people that are not like us.
[00:22:05] And don't be afraid to ask questions. Don't be afraid to be yourself, you know, and at the same time, respect others. Lastly, apologize sincerely.
[00:22:15] Proverbs, chapter 28, verse 13.
[00:22:17] He who conceals his sins doesn't prosper. But whoever Confesses and renounces them, finds mercy, own mistakes without defensiveness.
[00:22:31] This is huge in relationships, friendships, relationships with your kids, relationships with your spouse all around.
[00:22:40] If you've made a mistake, if you've been prideful, recognize it, admit it to yourself, pray for it, and apologize to that person. Ask for forgiveness.
[00:22:53] I gotta do this almost on a regular, you know what I mean? Like, I got kids that have feelings, and I grew up in a household where I was meant to not have feelings because.
[00:23:09] And I'm talking in my teenage years, where I grew up, I grew up with my mother, right? In those years.
[00:23:16] And it was very toxic because I was never meant to have feelings, right? I was, I was there.
[00:23:23] It was a relationship where I was there to please my mother, right?
[00:23:28] And I, I learned those tactics.
[00:23:31] And it's. Those are some things that I'm. I find that I'm doing to my kids, right? Like, no. And it's prideful. And I have to remember, like, that my kids are not here for me. I'm here for my kids.
[00:23:47] They're not here to please me. So when I do something to my kids that my mother used to do to me, I snap and like, oh, shoot, Miha, I'm sorry for doing that. You're not responsible for my feelings.
[00:24:03] I should not have done that. I was wrong. You know, those are huge. And when you get to the point where you can do that, that's when you know for sure that you're being less prideful.
[00:24:19] And, and don't get it twisted, because there's people, narcissistic people, toxic people that will say apologies because they learned that if they apologize, they can stay in your relationship circle.
[00:24:37] So you have to be able to discern.
[00:24:39] One of the ways to be able to discern is that you yourself learn how to apologize, learn how to ask for forgiveness in relationships.
[00:24:48] That's huge. So practical tip.
[00:24:53] Practice 1 Act of humility daily, like letting someone else speak first to build stronger relationships. What's going on, y' all? I'm going to be sharing with you four practical tips in overcoming pride and success as a Christian. And I'll be sharing my. A bit of my journey along the way.
[00:25:11] Overcoming pride and success as a Christian. First thing we need to do is acknowledge God's role.
[00:25:17] Deuteronomy, chapter 8, verse 18 says, but you shall remember the Lord your God, for it is he who gives you power to get wealth.
[00:25:28] Give credit to God for your achievements.
[00:25:31] Yes.
[00:25:33] So in being successful in my journey, it's easy to get prideful because you Feel proud of your accomplishments, right? It could get to the point where you're.
[00:25:49] You. You forget about God. You know what I mean? You. You forget about God and you live. You continue living your life, right? And then eventually you get to a point where you come to a valley again and you're losing everything, nothing's going right.
[00:26:06] And you suddenly just remember, like, oh, shoot, I'm here because I'm here in this valley in which I can't explain. I'm like, why am I here? Why what's going on? And then at that point, I remember God, or you remember God. We remember God at the valley because everything's going wrong, but when everything's going right, it's like, God, God who? You know what I mean?
[00:26:36] So learn. I. I've learned how to.
[00:26:41] To stop myself and be like, wait a minute, wait a minute. Okay, yes, I did just have a success. I did just have a win, a huge win.
[00:26:50] God, thank you.
[00:26:52] You know what I mean? Have a grateful attitude. That's one of the things that helps me is to be grateful to God when I'm acknowledging who he is and remembering giving credit to God for my achievements.
[00:27:06] Because like I said, it can be very easy to forget about God in our. Our.
[00:27:13] In our success, in our wins, in, you know, whether it be graduating from school or having a victory in getting a bonus at work or, or whatever. Whatever it might be. Don't forget a God. Don't forget God. Be thankful. Like, have a heart of gratitude all the time. And I think that when you have heart of gratitude all the time, every day, be thankful for something like, for. Be thankful for one thing every day.
[00:27:41] And then when those times of success come, it's easy to be thankful because you've already been practicing thankfulness or gratefulness, which is. That brings me to my next topic, which is pray for gratitude.
[00:27:54] First. Thessalonians, chapter 5, verse 18, says, in everything, give thanks, for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus towards you.
[00:28:04] Thank God for blessings to curb boasting. That's it.
[00:28:09] You thank God for blessings. You learn how to recognize the blessings, recognize the wins, you know, in getting a bonus check or passing that algebra class or whatever, whatever type of success you're dealing with right now or that you can remember, like God, thank you.
[00:28:29] Thank you, God. You know, and it. Whenever we thank God, it takes the focus off of us and, and puts the focus on the main. The, the. The. The main thing, the main person in our life, the Jesus Christ, Holy Spirit, God, all that. It. It. When we we focus on that in our successes. It helps us to put the focus on the. To magnify God, you know what I mean? I think the Psalm talks. One of the psalms talks about magnify the Lord.
[00:29:00] So when we magnify God, it gets bigger in our lives and we get smaller. You know what I mean? It's, it's a, a humble, a humbling process. Whenever we decide to magnify God in our successes, pray to God and.
[00:29:18] Pray to God and gratitude. Ask for him. Ask for his wisdom in doing these things. God, how do I be grateful in times of success?
[00:29:27] And let your Holy Spirit guide me in the right direction to be in, in this success, in my successes. Help me to be thankful and grateful for the successes that I do have in my life.
[00:29:40] Another thing we can do, which is the third tip that I'm giving you to overcome pride and success as a Christian, is celebrate others.
[00:29:49] Romans chap. 12:10. Love one another with brotherly affection.
[00:29:54] Outdo one another in showing honor.
[00:29:59] Rejoice in others successes. Humbly say the other person got the win over you. Say you got second place.
[00:30:12] Think about if are. Have we pouted in the past? Have I pouted before because I didn't win?
[00:30:19] Yes, I'm guilty of that in life. Like, I. I was raised playing sports. So one of the things that I learned in playing sports is good sportsmanship. You know, if you lose, good game, great game, you know what I mean? Keep your head up high. Know that it's just a game, you know, you lost. Cool. Nothing wrong with losing, you know what I mean? I'm not saying not to strive for, for, for the gold, you know, for winning.
[00:30:47] But when, when you lose, be able to tell the winner, hey, good job. You know what I mean?
[00:30:54] You know, if your co worker is doing a better job than you say, they get employee of the month or whatever, and you know that they deserve it because you work alongside there and they're kind of your work buddy. Like, dude, you congrats, you know what I mean?
[00:31:11] We can scroll through social media and that's a whole different monster, man. But anyway, you see somebody like, throwing out AI, you know, like right now, it's graduation season, it's May 25th right now, people are graduating all over the place.
[00:31:27] Do we take the time, hey, congratulations, Congrats, you know what I mean?
[00:31:33] And once we, once we have the thought of, like, oh, I wish I was doing it, what are you doing? You're putting the focus back on yourself and taking it off of, you know, honoring somebody Else give honor to somebody else, to your co worker, you know, to your, your, your friend.
[00:31:48] Good job, dude. I seen the hard work you've been doing and you know, great, great work. You know, you, you, you, you worked hard for that. You earned it. You know what I mean? Celebrate others. The last thing and overcoming pride and success as a Christian is stay grounded. O this is huge.
[00:32:07] Jeremiah 9, 23, 24.
[00:32:11] The Lord says, do not let the wise man glory in his wisdom.
[00:32:17] Let him who glories.
[00:32:20] Excuse me, Let him who glories glory in this, that he has understanding and knows me.
[00:32:31] Oh, that's power.
[00:32:32] Reflect on your dependence on God. Yes. Wow, this is, this is very humbling.
[00:32:39] And this word comes up a lot. I noticed in this little pride series that I'm doing here on all these videos on pride, humility, the word humble humility comes up.
[00:32:51] Reflect on your dependence on God. When overcoming pride and success as a Christian, God always tethered back to the main source, which is God.
[00:33:03] I was out, I was reading the Bible to my daughter earlier before she went to bed. I'm recording this at night and I was mentioning to her that, you know, God created everything. He created the humans, created earth, all this.
[00:33:23] And it reminded me of that scripture. Like how can the clay tell the potter basically who's boss? You know what I mean? How can the clay be telling like the person that's forming it? Hey, I'm the boss. That doesn't make any sense because the potter is forming the clay.
[00:33:43] That's he's the one, that he's the creator, the original creator. So we have to tether back to the original creator, the, you know, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Jacob, you know, Jesus is his father.
[00:33:58] Stay grounded. Reflect on your depend dependence on God. Like God created. Just remember that God created humans.
[00:34:05] He created everything. The mountains, the winds, the waters, the sun and the moon. You know, I always come back to psalms too. Like how the psalms are how God's majesty, like how the earth sings praises to his name. You know how that, that imagery that it has in psalms, like that the winds and the mountains declare his glory. You know, that's how we. That's one of the ways how I remember that God is God, you know, the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom.
[00:34:41] That's the beginning. That's the Proverbs, chapter one, verse seven, which is how I'm taught to believe. That is the main thesis behind the book of Proverbs, right? The thesis is the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. We want to start on this path of wisdom. We start with the fear of the Lord. And the fear of the Lord to me is like a reverence for who God is, a remembering of God being the Creator and of the, you know, of everything, of the universe, of humans, of animals, plants, everything. So when we, when we always tether back to God being the center, being the, the main focus, of course we can be humbled, like because he's the creator.
[00:35:29] Like what human can create mountains?
[00:35:33] What human can create the winds, create the sun and the sky?
[00:35:39] Impossible, right? Only God can.
[00:35:42] Only God can do those things.
[00:35:45] So here's a key takeaway to overcoming pride and success as a Christian. Here's a practical tip. You can journal three ways God enable your success each week to keep pride in check. So journal, I mean, it doesn't have to be exactly this. You can journal, journal one thing every day like that you're thankful for that, that you can thank God for that humans can't do or whatever, you know, journal three ways God enabled your success each week to keep pride in check. What's going on, y' all? I'm going to be sharing with you four things in overcoming pride in spiritual life. As a Christian, pride is huge. It's one of the things that we always deal with on a day to day basis.
[00:36:30] It doesn't go away. It's one of the things that's constantly there in our lives that we need to constantly overcome because it's not going to go away. It's going to be there. It's, it's a, it's a human, it's a sin. It's like one of the things that comes with the fall of man, I guess you could say.
[00:36:46] So the first thing we got to do is confess spiritual pride.
[00:36:51] Romans chapter 3, verse 23 says, for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
[00:36:57] Admit when you judge others faith, who are we to judge somebody else's walk with God?
[00:37:11] Why do we think we have that kind of authority?
[00:37:14] And it's, and I seen it a lot in churches that I've been to. I myself have done it, judged others on their faith. I'm guilty of it.
[00:37:26] And it's real easy to pick on somebody whenever.
[00:37:30] What is that scripture that take the log out of your own eye when you notice a speck of dust in, in your, in your, in your brother's eye, you know, don't say anything because you got huge logs stuck in your own. You know what I mean? You got to take the One out of your own first. You know what I mean?
[00:37:49] It reminds me of that scripture, but all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.
[00:37:56] Nobody is.
[00:37:58] Nobody's perfect. Right? And at the same time, we don't know what somebody's walk is like.
[00:38:05] You know, even God loves our enemies. That's. That's what it makes me think about too. Like, we have enemies and we want so bad to, like, hurt them or see them hurt, you know, or want to have revenge on them, you know, all the, all the bad things that we're not supposed to. To seek for our enemies. The Bible says, pray for your enemies, you know, pray for those who persecute you.
[00:38:29] And in the church too, like, we could see another person that's a Christian quote, unquote Christian. Like, I like on, on YouTube, there's like, celebrities that are coming to Christ. You know what I mean? Or these, like, there's this one, like, only fans, girl that came to crisis. Popular, like, redheaded girl. I don't remember her name. But, like, we don't know what their relationship with God is like.
[00:38:54] Like, how can we.
[00:38:55] Yes, we may see it on the outside, what's going on, but at the same time, like, when, when I first came to Christ, I wasn't perfect. I wasn't like, not perfect. I wasn't like all the way wise right away like that.
[00:39:10] No, it's a process. It's a walk.
[00:39:13] You're walking on the path. You never. You're not. Once you start on the path, how can you be all the way, like, toward the end or midway or whatever if you just started?
[00:39:23] You know what I mean? And it's sad because there are churches out there that judge people on their faith, and there's church leaders that do that. And it's sad because these people, some people could be new to the faith and they're already being judged in their. In their own house, in their own body of Christ Church. It's. It's sad to me. And I myself, that's one of the reasons why I tried different churches. Anyways, so the next thing is pray for humility.
[00:39:53] First Peter, chapter 5, verse 5.
[00:39:55] God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.
[00:40:02] Ask God to keep your focus on his grace and he'll help you. When you ask God.
[00:40:13] Excuse me. When you ask God for help and, and you're truly repentant, God will help you. He'll show you the way.
[00:40:25] Reading scripture is huge. That's one of the things that I, that I fall back on that that I am reminded of whenever I pray for myself or I'm going through a situation. I, I remember, I remember a verse that I had read that that reminds me like, oh, this is what the Bible says and this is the right way to act toward this.
[00:40:52] Excuse me, excuse me. I think it's in James. It says, ask God for wisdom and he'll give it to you.
[00:41:02] Ask God for his, for the Holy Spirit to help you, to help guide you in the right direction and he'll guide you.
[00:41:11] So ask God to keep your focus on his grace and remember what he did for you. Jesus died on the cross for us. He did died on the cross for you.
[00:41:22] Remember the grace that we have, you know, and whenever we, whenever we seek to like judge others in their faith, like, oh, they're not real Christians. Like, how do you know, dude? Like from a distance you're already judging them. You don't even know them, you know, so just keep that humility in mind and, and keep God's your focus. Keep, ask God to keep your focus on his grace.
[00:41:46] The third thing is learn from others in overcoming pride in spiritual life as a Christian.
[00:41:55] First Peter, chapter 4, verse 10 says, as each has received a gift, employ it in serving one another as good managers of the grace of God in its various forms.
[00:42:10] That's right.
[00:42:12] Value the faith of other believers. Value the faith of all believers, especially those. It makes me think about those who have been in the Lord for years and have wisdom.
[00:42:32] It's like we grow, we, we, we grow up wanting to disrespect elders or people that are older than us.
[00:42:41] Like, oh, what do you know? You know, I'm, I'm, I'm an adult. Like you, like, why do I have to listen to you?
[00:42:49] You know, you have that attitude you go into, you go into your Christian faith with that as well.
[00:42:59] You got to be careful too, because not all old people that are in the faith are, have been in the faith for years. This makes me think about my adhd, my autistic brothers and sisters that are Christians.
[00:43:14] Super smart individuals, including myself. Like I'm on the ADHD neurodivergent spectrum.
[00:43:21] Those believers can be easily passed off as, you know, dumb witted, you know what I mean? As, what do they know? They're not popular or what do they know?
[00:43:36] They're the weirdo in the church.
[00:43:39] You know, it's easy to pass, it's easy to ignore them.
[00:43:44] I've been victim and subject of it in the church because I knew the Bible and I would go around These other my peers and they weren't necessarily living out their faith according to the Bible.
[00:44:03] And I would see this and I'm like, wait a minute, guys, doesn't the Bible say this? Like, don't talk like, like don't gossip or talk bad about your brother behind his back or you know, did whatever, whatever the case might have been.
[00:44:24] And I've experienced it in churches to where church leaders even make fun of those people that are socially awkward.
[00:44:34] And I have a heart for this and a passion for this because I feel like our neurodivergent brothers and sisters are being treated the same way they were being treated outside of the church.
[00:44:50] They're being devalued because they're socially. Because we're socially awkward. We're being devalued because we wear the same shirt every week.
[00:45:03] You know what I mean? Like, dude, let I.
[00:45:07] The superficiality that comes with secularism is in the church as well.
[00:45:15] So learn from others.
[00:45:19] Which is the, the third tip that I'm, that I'm on right now. Learn from others.
[00:45:25] Don't put yourself, humble yourself.
[00:45:28] And for instance, in my example, seek to understand how your neurodivergent brother and sister is like how they think, you know, spend time with them. Take, take, take them out to lunch.
[00:45:44] You know, figure out how they know so much about God in the Bible. You know what I mean? I mean, give them a chance.
[00:45:53] Learn the. I mean, they're the body of Christ as well.
[00:45:56] And moving on. The last thing in overcoming pride in spiritual life as a Christian is boast in Christ.
[00:46:05] Galatians chapter 6, verse 14 says, but far be it from me to boast except in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.
[00:46:16] Excuse me.
[00:46:18] Point to Jesus, not your spiritual deeds. O come on, point to Jesus. Jesus is the main example of how we should live our life. Our faith in Jesus, our faith in God.
[00:46:37] Boast in the cross. Boast in the cross of our Lord Jesus Christ.
[00:46:42] Humility. Just think about, think back. And it reminds me of how Jesus was.
[00:46:51] Excuse me guys, the other. In one of the other previous videos about pride, I was reading a passage where Jesus was w. Jesus washed the feet of his disciples.
[00:47:07] Imagine you're a teacher at a school, you have 30 students and you wash all your students feet.
[00:47:18] Wow.
[00:47:19] Jesus was the ultimate example of humility.
[00:47:26] Died on a cross with all our sins, none of which he committed.
[00:47:36] The ultimate example of humility is Jesus.
[00:47:43] Thank you God for Jesus. Thank you for Jesus. Jesus's example and being humble and being prideless.
[00:47:59] Thank you Jesus. So Thank Jesus.
[00:48:02] Point to Jesus in your spiritual deeds. Whenever you do something that. That you do something for the Lord or you do, you say you go help somebody. You go out of your way to help somebody, and they ask you why you're doing this.
[00:48:16] Jesus.
[00:48:18] Jesus is the way, the truth and the life. He taught me this.
[00:48:22] He taught me that going out of my way to help somebody is what it's about, is what life is about.
[00:48:31] You know, it gives you an opportunity to share about, share the gospel.
[00:48:36] Your spiritual deeds gives you an opportunity to share the gospel of Christ, to share the good news of the Lord.
[00:48:45] So whenever you do something, you have a spiritual success, a spiritual deed.
[00:48:53] Give the glory to God and. Give the glory to God and boast in Jesus.
[00:48:58] Boast in Christ. All right, so the last. The. The. Here's a key tip or key takeaway that you can use, a practical takeaway that you can use in overcoming pride, spiritual life as a Christian.
[00:49:10] Memorize a verse like First Corinthians, chapter 1, verse 31 to redirect pride to Christ's work.
[00:49:19] What's going on, y' all? We're talking about overcoming pride and conflict as a Christian. I'm going to share with you four practical things that we can do in. To overcome pride and conflict as a Christian. And we'll be sharing with you some of my insights and some of my journey. And in. In overcoming pride and conflict as a Christian, first thing we got to do is identify prideful reactions.
[00:49:42] Notice when pride fuels arguments.
[00:49:45] Proverbs 13:10 says, Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is with people who take advice. I love Proverbs, so notice when pride fuels arguments. Okay, so I could share an example or a testimony.
[00:50:03] I'm married. I've been married for 10 plus years. When I make an argument with my wife, I learned when to be like to back up with me. Like, oh, wait a minute, is this argument even necessary? You know what I mean?
[00:50:19] And we've experienced it before. Whenever you're in an argument with somebody and it could be one where you just like, I can lose this one.
[00:50:31] And then you just give up and be like, okay, cool, you win. You know what I mean?
[00:50:37] I'm not saying to do that in all situations, but recognize that, like, notice when. When pride is fueling your arguments. Like, do you just want to be right? You know what I mean?
[00:50:48] Because I grew up like that, in a household where you learned how to argue just to be right even if you're wrong, even if you don't even know that you're wrong.
[00:51:02] Grew up in a household part, you know, on my mom's side of the family, where arguments were for proving that you're right with if you're wrong or not.
[00:51:13] So when you identify that, when you know that like you're in an argument and you're so heated or, or it gets to the point where you're just like, you reflect and you're like, wait, do I even need to be in this argument? Like, what's, I'm wasting my energy. You know what I mean? I get to the point of that, to, to, to that point in an argument, like, dude, you know what? You can win. Go ahead. You know, it saves, it saves you anxiety. Like, it, it's less stressful.
[00:51:45] So just being able to, to recognize that is huge in, in overcoming pride in conflicts.
[00:51:52] As a Christian, the second thing you can do is pray for peace, seek God's help to respond calmly.
[00:51:59] Matthew 5. 9 says, Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God. That's it.
[00:52:07] You want peace in an argument?
[00:52:12] Like for instance, like in my comments, I have several channels and social medias and stuff like that.
[00:52:22] Excuse me.
[00:52:25] And when a person is arguing just to be right, like, I learned to like, sense that on social media. So one of the ways to like dispel that is I respond with interesting, interesting perspective.
[00:52:43] Thank you for sharing because that shows that I heard what they said and I'm acknowledging their perspective.
[00:52:55] If I continue to engage and more comments, I get to like the 5th reply. 4th reply. I already know that they just want to be right. I'm just like, okay, cool, you win. You can, you can have that one. It, it's not even worth the energy.
[00:53:10] So pray for peace. Like, God will give you peace.
[00:53:14] God will, will show you the way.
[00:53:17] He'll show you.
[00:53:21] He'll help you to remember scripture. He'll help you to remember this scripture on blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God. So being in the word and reading the word of God and remembering that pride is not good for you, God will help you to remember that. Ask him for his wisdom. God, grant me your wisdom today to learn how to end an argument, how to get out of an argument that is causing me to be prideful, that is causing me to want to be right.
[00:53:57] God, help me, help me to respond.
[00:54:01] A side note, one of the things that I do, I use, I use like chat, GPT or Grok, whatever, these AIs and I'll be like, how.
[00:54:14] Show me how to respond biblically. To a person that is xyz.
[00:54:22] And these AIs will help you, you know, to it with the use of scripture.
[00:54:30] Because if you put like from a biblical perspective, then it'll show you scripture. And scripture is what God's word, right? So these tools also help me along with, you know, praying, asking God, you know, so see God's help and respond calm, to respond calmly. God will help you. He'll listen. 13.
[00:54:52] Seek reconciliation.
[00:54:55] Prioritize unity over being right. I love that Romans 12:18 says, if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:55:09] Wow, this is hard.
[00:55:11] This is hard because, I mean it's hard because we want to be right.
[00:55:16] We, we want to win.
[00:55:20] We want to, we want to be proud instead of seeking unity in, amongst believers, among, at a, at a job, in your family.
[00:55:35] We want to be like, no, I'm right, you're wrong.
[00:55:38] Look at this scripture, man. Romans chapter 12, verse 18. If it is possible, as much as, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:55:48] We decide, we have the decision to make.
[00:55:54] We've been given the will to make the decision. Because as long as it is up to us, if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:56:06] Learn how to be peaceful.
[00:56:09] Learn how to be peaceful among your peers who, who are insulting you. It reminds me of that proverb that says somewhere along the lines of a prudent man, a prudent man ignores an insult.
[00:56:28] How hard is that? You're being insulted verbally, you know, just, just in passing.
[00:56:35] How hard is it to. To be like, you know, what, you know, f you or whatever, however you respond to somebody that is insulting you, or on social media somebody calls you dumb, or, you know, worse words than that.
[00:56:50] How hard is it to be like, you know what, dude?
[00:56:53] You start typing out all these bad words.
[00:56:56] It's hard because it's, it's a decision that we make.
[00:57:01] Our decisions are, are that far minuscule, far away from turning into an unpeaceful situation, an uniting, ill uniting situation with another person.
[00:57:21] So if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. That's huge. That makes me think about self control. Having self control in a prideful situation, in a prideful moment is. It builds character.
[00:57:34] Ignoring an insult, a prudent man ignores an insult.
[00:57:41] Seek reconciliation. Prioritize unity over being right.
[00:57:46] Remember, remember the main cause, the main thing, God.
[00:57:54] The beginning of wisdom is the fear of the Lord.
[00:57:57] God, that's the main thing, right? Whatever your situation is, try to remember the main. The alpha, the alpha and omega. Try to remember that. Like, okay, I'm in this situation with this group of people.
[00:58:10] Do I really want to be the. The proud one out of this bunch, or can I be the peacemaker out of this bunch?
[00:58:17] Group text messages. If you're in a group message, you know, there's a narcissistic member in that. In that group message, how to bring peace among two, two family members.
[00:58:30] How do you do that? You know what I mean? Ask God. Seek reconciliation, lasting and overcoming pride and conflict. As a Christian, speak humbly. Ooh.
[00:58:39] Use words that build up, not tear down. Oh, Love this. Ephesians 4:29 says, Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up, as the need may be.
[00:58:56] This is huge. I love this. When I first came to the Lord through Jesus Christ, my mouth was bad.
[00:59:05] Every other word was a cuss word.
[00:59:10] And I think mainly due to the fact, because I didn't know a lot of words, I didn't read, I was very illiterate, so. And I, you know, listening to music where every. Every other word is a cuss word. You know, I.
[00:59:24] When I came to the Lord, I knew I needed to change that aspect because also too, because I was hearing the scripture. Was that scripture for out of the heart the mouth speaks, right? That scripture would pop up like, okay, out of the heart the mouth speaks. So whatever is in my heart is going to come out, right? So. And I was speaking these bad words, all these bad, negative words.
[00:59:47] So I had to learn how to talk.
[00:59:50] And then I would read Proverbs and like, somewhere in the middle, it would talk about tongue, something about the tongue, something about the speech, the lips, the mouth. I'm like, dude, how important is my speech?
[01:00:04] How important is my speech in everyday life?
[01:00:08] So I. I dedicated my. My learning to learn how to read better, to read more. And at the time in coming to the Lord, I was just starting college. I had to take remedial reading classes because I. I was at an elementary level.
[01:00:24] You know, I was copying people's homework just to pass class. You know what I mean?
[01:00:28] When I began reading the Bible, I didn't know what a lot of the words meant. I was constantly looking in the dictionary. What does this mean? What does this mean? What does this mean? A very tedious process.
[01:00:38] And then eventually got to the point where I started learning more words. I was like, oh, okay, cool, I can use this word. In this situation. Okay, I can use this word in this sit situation.
[01:00:47] So speech. Speech is important. So speak humbly. This is the la. That. That's the last thing. Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up others as the need may be your words of power. So we have to remember that our words are powerful.
[01:01:03] Are we think about what we're saying, right? For me, I got adhd.
[01:01:10] Sometimes I blurt things out and it's hard and. And it's hard to restrain my speech. Sometimes I'm like, oh, shoot, why did I say know it? And I have to go back and apologize, be like, well, I'm sorry I said that. You know, it just. It just came out. And, you know, I got to apologize for my speech sometimes, especially like in my marriage with my kids. Like, mija, I'm sorry I said that. I shouldn't have said that. I was wrong, you know? But speak humbly.
[01:01:36] Use words to build up or tear down. Learn how to be. Learn how to have gratitude towards others.
[01:01:42] Learn how to see the good work of others and learn how to say something about it, right? If you see somebody doing a good job, if you recognize them, keeping their head down, doing their job, learn how to go up to and be like, hey, man, I seen that you're doing a good job. And I. I noticed that. Thank you. You know what I mean? Say those types of words and learn how to come at a situation to where you're speaking words in humility, right?
[01:02:11] It makes me think of that proverb. Proverb.
[01:02:14] A word fitly spoken is like.
[01:02:18] Like an apple of gold or something like that.
[01:02:21] Learn how to speak, when to speak, you know what I mean? When's the right time to say something?
[01:02:26] When's the right time to be quiet, you know what I mean? Because speech can be silence, you know what I mean? That's one of the things I learned in speech class and in music as well. Like.
[01:02:37] Like there's the term in. In psalms where it says selah.
[01:02:41] Selah is like reflect. You know what I mean? Reflect. Listen. Speech can be a form of listening and. And responding. So silence could be the same thing too. Like, it makes me think about Jesus when he was. When he kept silent in front of Herod. Herod was asking him the questions, right? And Jesus didn't say word, you know what I mean? Speak humbly. Use words that build up and not tear down. So learn how. How to.
[01:03:09] We got to learn how to use humility and speech. So here's the key Takeaway. Here's one of the practical thing that you can do, you know, after the. After this video, before conflict, pray for a humble heart to de escalate tension.
[01:03:27] Pray. Talk to God. Ask him.
[01:03:30] Ask him to help you. Ask him for your wisdom. God, grant me your wisdom to know how to go through this situation.
[01:03:37] If you know you're going to be in a situation where that person is going to be there, to where that person is always wants to be, right? God, I'm going into this situation right now where this person's going to be there. I know they're going to want to be, right? Lord, help me to de escalate. Help me to, to. To speak humbly. Help me to use words that will cause that person to, to back. You know, not to back down, but to diffuse the situation, right?
[01:04:07] What is it, that proverb that talks about a king's wrath? A king's wrath is. Is related to like how you answer somebody, like, how do you speak? I can't remember exactly, but it refers to speaking humbly. I can't remember at the moment. But anyways, before conflicts, pray for a humble heart to de escalate tension.
[01:04:28] And I want to know how you deal with pride in overcoming conflicts. What's going on, y' all? I'm talking about overcoming pride in leadership. As a Christian, I'm going to share with you four key things that you can take away from this, as well as a tip that you can do on a weekly basis. And I'll share with you a little bit of my journey along the way and what has helped me in kind of intertwined in these different. Four different things that we can do in over prompting. Overcoming pride in leadership. As a Christian, first thing we got to do is recognize leadership pride.
[01:05:02] Admit when you seek glory over service.
[01:05:06] Matthew 23:12 says, Whoever exalts himself will be humbled and whoever humbles himself will be exalted.
[01:05:17] Meaning leadership.
[01:05:19] And you're in service and you're a leader is it's easy to. And it's easy to want the glory, right?
[01:05:30] And then shortly forget about what your leadership of shortly forget about your being a leader in service.
[01:05:39] And I noticed this when I go into convenience stores because I'm a truck driver, right? And I. And sometimes I take. I'll take lunch money with me and I'll eat lunch at truck stops or whatever, right? So I go to different convenience stores. When I go in those convenience stores, you notice.
[01:05:58] I notice like managers, whenever the managers are there, it's funny because the managers want to have leadership over their workers, so much so that they want to have leadership over the customers.
[01:06:14] So, like, if you ask the manager for help, you can tell they had this attitude like, oh, why? Like a high in my attitude? Oh, why are you asking me? How come you don't ask the. The representative of the store? You know what I mean? You know what I mean? Like, so it's. And I've been guilty of it too, being in a leadership position where I can be prideful, like, yeah, I got this. Cool. I'm leader over all these people. I'm leader over these people, you know, and it can be easy to. To forget about why you're there in the first place.
[01:06:51] You're. You. You're providing a service, right?
[01:06:55] You're providing a service. It makes me think about. I did a video on pride earlier where it's talking about Jesus washing the feet of his disciples. Jesus was a leader. He was the teacher of the. Of his group, of that group of his disciples, right?
[01:07:09] And he was washing the feet of his disciples.
[01:07:14] He was maintaining service while still being the leader.
[01:07:19] That's an. That's like the ultimate example right there. Jesus is the ultimate example of being a leader but still being a server at the same time. Admit when you seek glory over service.
[01:07:36] Second thing, pray for servants heart.
[01:07:40] Ask God to make you a servant leader. Mark chapter 10, verse 43 says, whoever wants to become great among you shall be your servant man. Everybody wants to be the leader.
[01:07:54] And we see this in the workplace. Everybody wants to have that job in the office where they're getting a commission and they're just sitting in front of a computer screen all day.
[01:08:05] Everybody who, everybody wants that, right?
[01:08:10] But when we get there is. It is getting there only to be the higher power to where you're being served or that you're serving. You're in the higher power serving others, right? Like, think of. Think of like a safety lead. Like if you work in, in the oil field or, you know, like, I work in the oil field. A safety man, right?
[01:08:35] Some people get into safety because it's. It's a leadership position, right? And they want to be respected, right? Because they're in leadership position.
[01:08:45] But it's like, dude, you're in a position where you're serving people.
[01:08:51] You're serving the customer.
[01:08:53] You're serving, you know, the people in your company. You're not there to be served, dude. You know what I mean? Like, it makes me upset because we see these leaders that, that want. They want to be served.
[01:09:09] Like, no, dude, you're there to serve you're not. We're not there to serve you. You know what I mean? And it just, it just, it's mind boggling to me. So Jesus is the main, the main example of being a leader, but still being a servant.
[01:09:26] Think about Jesus washing the feet of his disciples, right? He's the main, he's the leader of, of the group of his disciples. He's the rabbi. And here he is serving his disciples.
[01:09:40] The ultimate, ultimate example of being a servant leader. Third thing, empower others, lift up those who lead instead of dominating. Ooh.
[01:09:55] First Thessalonians, chapter 5, verse 14, says, we exhort you, brothers, admonish the disorderly, encourage the faint hearted, support the weak, be patient towards all. Wow.
[01:10:08] Admonish the disorderly, encourage the faint hearted, support the weak, be patient towards all.
[01:10:14] Lift up those who lead instead of dominating. Yes.
[01:10:17] So in being a servant and being in leadership, you're not only serving the customer, right? But, but you're serving your, your co workers. You're serving those that are under you by showing them, look, we're in the place of leadership, but we're not to forget about why we're in leadership, right?
[01:10:42] Instead of wanting to dominate the people that are under you, like, oh, you got to listen to me because I'm up here and I make more money than you, therefore you got to be my servant.
[01:10:56] No, that's the opposite of how Jesus wants us to be. That's the opposite of how the Holy Spirit wants us to be.
[01:11:03] So we have to lift up those that are under our charge by giving them encouragement, by being alongside them, but still being their leader.
[01:11:18] Being alongside them, look, coaching them per se. If you were in this position that they were in and now they're in your position and your higher position.
[01:11:28] Check it out.
[01:11:30] Here's a couple tips on how I did this.
[01:11:33] Maybe it'll help you out, you know what I mean? Not from a.
[01:11:38] I need to help you because I'm the higher power.
[01:11:41] No, because there's some people, I have seen leadership leaders that do that. Like, they do it to the point where it's like, oh, you need me.
[01:11:50] They had that attitude like, you need me for this.
[01:11:54] And it's like, no, dude, you're missing the point.
[01:12:01] You need, it's like, it's like the attitude should be like, I'm here to serve. You know what I mean? I'm here to help my lead, my leaders, the people that under me who are also leaders. I'm here to help my leaders lead, right?
[01:12:18] Like Jesus washing the feet of his disciples was, I think it's it, I think it was him showing his disciples. Look, this is how you lead. When you get disciples, you wash their feet as I am washing yours.
[01:12:34] Lead by my example basically is what Jesus was doing there.
[01:12:38] So lift up those who lead instead of dominating.
[01:12:41] See them as your, your disciples and continue to serve them still, but still be in leadership. Right? You still, sometimes you got to, you have to reprimand if it may be, if it may come to that, you know what I mean? But still do it in a, and from a humble, a humble heart instead of a proud leadership position. The fourth thing is seek feedback. Oh, I love this. Welcome input to grow as a leader. Proverbs chapter 15, verse 22 says, where there is no counsel, plans fail.
[01:13:16] But in a multitude of counselors, they are established.
[01:13:22] This is huge in leadership.
[01:13:26] Makes me think about like leadership conferences or these different conference continuing education classes, you know, why do we do continuing education?
[01:13:35] So we can continue to grow as leaders.
[01:13:39] Constantly learning, getting counsel from other leaders, from people that aren't. Might be in the same position as you, but in a different company.
[01:13:50] Hey dude, you know, my company is the same in yours. How do you, you know, how do you handle this situation?
[01:13:57] You know what I mean? Ask, be, don't be afraid to ask, you know, especially if it's a Christian, if it's another Christian. Dude, you're the body of Christ. Like why wouldn't we want to share that information with one another, you know what I mean? It's, it's a no brainer because you're part of the body of Christ and we're there to lift each other up.
[01:14:16] Unfortunately, sometimes churches don't see it that way, you know what I mean? Or, or people in the church don't see it that way.
[01:14:25] You know, maybe because we're immature, we're immature in our stage in God or we're maybe we're just using the church for our own personal gain, you know, whatever it may be. But anyway, don't be afraid to ask questions. Welcome input to grow as a leader. Don't feel like you're too high to where you're like, I know everything, I don't need any help from anybody.
[01:14:46] Don't do that because according to Proverbs, your plans are going to fail.
[01:14:51] But in a multitude of counselors, they are established. So if you want growth in your company or growth in your, whatever you're doing, still seek information.
[01:15:04] Seek out information. You know what I mean? The Internet is there at Our fingertips go to, go to AI, go to Chad, GPT, Grok, whatever. Hey, how do you do this? How do you handle this situation with this? From a biblical perspective?
[01:15:18] Boom. You know, I mean, that's just one way. Another way is actual experience from an actual person. You know what I mean? Because AI can't replace a person because the AI doesn't have experience.
[01:15:29] It can draw upon the experiences of others and, and spit it out to you. But actually talking to a person, you know, face to face, eye to eye, an actual human that has actually gone through the situation, that's how, that's another way that you can get wisdom. So overcoming pride and leadership as a Christian, here's a practical tip that you can do on a weekly basis.
[01:15:52] Ask one person you lead for honest feedback to stay humble.
[01:15:59] I'm married.
[01:16:02] In my situation, I can be like, I can ask my wife like, hey, how am I doing? Am I, am I helping to lead my family?
[01:16:10] Am I helping our family? Am I leading my family? Well, what am I if from your eyes talking to my wife, Remember your eyes. How can I, how am I leading? How am I doing? You know what I mean? You can ask your friend if your friend knows you well, hey, dude, how am I doing? You've seen me with my family.
[01:16:33] Am I doing all right? What? You know, you know what I mean? Ask for feedback. You know, you could do it once a week from, from any person. If you're at work and there's somebody that you sort of semi trust, like, hey man, how do you, how do you think of how I'm doing? You know what I mean? Am I, am I doing it? Am I connecting pro like I, I do loads, you know what I mean? I have to connect hoses and stuff. Amen. Am I connecting this hose right?
[01:16:58] Am I, how do you fill out your paperwork? Am I filling out my paperwork right? Can you check it for me? You know, I mean, can you, can you give me some feedback on my homework? You know, whatever it may be.
[01:17:08] Having that sort of habit helps you to receive feedback because if you're not used to receiving feedback because you feel like, you know, every, you know, you're coming from a place where you feel like you know everything and you don't need help, it helps you to receive feedback, positive feedback, negative feedback, whatever, and to be, to prepare your mind for it because it could be an anxiety written thing, you know, if you're, if you're in an anxious mode, if you're in a stressed out mode and you don't like confrontation, or you don't like feedback at all because it makes you feel a certain way. The more you do it, the better you are receiving it, whether it's good or bad.
[01:17:47] Let me know in the comments down below. You guys how you do it.
[01:17:51] If you've if you're in a place of leadership and there's some some gems of wisdom that you can share with people in the comments or share with me, I'm more than welcome to have you reread your comment down below. Maybe it can help me out or help somebody else out. Here's another video right here on Pride that you might be that might be interested in it. Appreciate you guys. Have a good one. Bye.
