Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] What's going on, y' all? We're talking about overcoming pride and conflict as a Christian, I'm going to share with you four practical things that we can do in. To overcome pride in conflict as a Christian. And I'm going to be sharing with you some of my insights and some of my journey.
[00:00:15] And in. In overcoming pride and conflict as a Christian, first thing we got to do is identify prideful reactions.
[00:00:22] Notice when pride fuels arguments.
[00:00:26] Proverbs chapter 13, verse 10, says, Pride only breeds quarrels, but wisdom is with people who take advice. I love Proverbs, so notice when pride fuels arguments. Okay, so I could share an example or testimony.
[00:00:44] I'm married. I've been married for 10 plus years. When I make an argument with my wife, I learned when to be like, to back up with me. Like, oh, wait a minute, is this argument even necessary? You know what I mean?
[00:01:00] And we've experienced it before. Whenever you're in an argument with somebody and it could be one where you just like, I can lose this one.
[00:01:11] And then you just give up and be like, okay, cool, you win. You know what I mean?
[00:01:17] I'm not saying to do that in all situations, but recognize that, like, notice when, when pride is fueling your arguments. Like, do you just want to be right? You know what I mean?
[00:01:29] Because I grew up like that. In a household where you learned how to argue just to be right even if you're wrong, even if you don't even know that you're wrong.
[00:01:43] Group in a household part, you know, on my mom's side of the family, where arguments were for proving that you're right with if you're wrong or not.
[00:01:53] So when you identify that, when you know that, like, you're in an argument and you're, you're so heated, or it gets to the point where you're just like, you reflect and you're like, wait, do I even need to be in this argument? Like, what's.
[00:02:12] I'm wasting my energy. You know what I mean? I get to the point of that, to, to that point in an argument, like, dude, you know what? You can win. Go ahead. You know, it saves, it saves you anxiety. Like, it's less stressful.
[00:02:26] So just being able to, to recognize that is huge in, in overcoming pride in conflicts.
[00:02:32] As a Christian, the second thing you can do is pray for peace, seek God's help to respond calmly.
[00:02:39] Matthew, chapter 5, verse 9, says, Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called children of God. That's it.
[00:02:48] You want peace in an argument, like, for Instance like in my comments, I have several channels and social medias and stuff like that.
[00:03:03] Excuse me.
[00:03:05] And when a person is arguing just to be right, like I learned to like sense that on social media. So one of the ways to like dispel that is I respond with interesting, interesting perspective.
[00:03:23] Thank you for sharing cuz that shows that I heard what they said and I'm acknowledging their perspective.
[00:03:35] If I continue to engage and more comments, I get to like the fifth reply. Fourth reply. I already know that they just want to be right. I'm just like, okay, cool, you win. You can, you can have that one. It's not even worth the energy.
[00:03:51] So pray for peace. Like God will give you peace.
[00:03:55] God will, will show you the way.
[00:03:58] He'll show you.
[00:04:01] He'll help you to remember scripture. He'll help you to remember this scripture on blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the children of God. So being in the word and reading the word of God and remembering that pride is not good for you. God will help you to remember that. Ask him for his wisdom. God, grant me your wisdom today to learn how to end an argument, how to get out of an argument that is causing me to be prideful, that is causing me to want to be right.
[00:04:38] God help me, help me to respond.
[00:04:42] A side note, one of the things that I do, I use, I use like chat, GPT or GROK or whatever, these AIs and I'll be like how.
[00:04:54] Show me how to respond biblically to a person that is xyz and these AIs will help you, you know, to. With the use of scripture.
[00:05:11] Because if you put like from a biblical perspective, then it'll show you scripture. And scripture is what God's word, right? So these tools also help me along with, you know, praying, asking God, you know, so see God's help and respond calm, to respond calmly. God will help you. He'll listen. Third thing, seek reconciliation.
[00:05:36] Prioritize unity over being right. I love that Romans 12:18 says, if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:05:49] Wow, this is hard.
[00:05:52] This is hard because, I mean it's hard because we want to be right.
[00:05:57] We, we want to win.
[00:06:01] We want to, we want to be proud.
[00:06:05] Instead of seeking unity in, amongst believers, among, at a, at a job in your family.
[00:06:15] We want to be like, no, I'm right, you're wrong.
[00:06:19] Look at this scripture, man. Romans chapter 12, verse 18. If it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:06:29] We Decide.
[00:06:30] We have the decision to make.
[00:06:34] We've been given the will to make the decision. Because as long as it is up to us, if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men.
[00:06:47] Learn how to be peaceful.
[00:06:49] Learn how to be peaceful among your peers who.
[00:06:55] Who are insulting you. It reminds me of that proverb that says somewhere along the lines of a prudent man, a prudent man ignores an insult.
[00:07:09] How hard is that?
[00:07:10] Being insulted verbally, you know, just. Just in passing.
[00:07:16] How hard is it to. To. To be like, you know, what, you know, f you or whatever, however you respond to somebody that is insulting you, or on social media, somebody calls you dumb or, you know, worse words than that?
[00:07:31] How hard is it to be like, you know what, dude?
[00:07:34] You start typing out all these bad words is hard because it's, It's a decision that we make.
[00:07:42] Our decisions are. Are that far, minuscule, far away from turning into an unpeaceful situation, an uniting, ill Uniting situation with another person.
[00:08:02] So if it is possible, as much as it is up to you, be at peace with all men. That's huge. That makes me think about self control.
[00:08:09] Self control in a prideful situation, in a prideful moment is. It builds character.
[00:08:15] Ignoring an insult, a prudent man ignores an insult.
[00:08:22] Seek reconciliation. Prioritize unity over being right.
[00:08:26] Remember, Remember the.
[00:08:29] The. The main cause. The main thing, God, the beginning of wisdom is, is the fear of the Lord God. That's the main thing, right? Whatever your situation is, try to remember the main. The alpha, the alpha and omega. Try to remember that. Like, okay, I'm in this situation with this group of people.
[00:08:51] Do I really want to be the. The proud one out of this bunch, or can I be the peacemaker out of this bunch?
[00:08:58] Group text messages. If you're in a group message, you know, there's a narcissistic member in that. In that group message, how to bring peace among two, two family members.
[00:09:11] How do you do that? You know what I mean? Ask God. Seek reconciliation, lasting and overcoming pride and conflict. As a Christian, speak humbly. Ooh.
[00:09:20] Use words that build up, not tear down. Oh, I Love this. Ephesians 4:29 says, Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up, as the need may be.
[00:09:36] This is huge. I love this. When I first came to the Lord through Jesus Christ, my mouth was bad.
[00:09:45] Every other word was a cuss word.
[00:09:51] And I think mainly due to the fact, because I didn't know a lot of Words I didn't read. I was very illiterate, so. And I know listening to music where every, every other word is a cuss word, you know, I, when I came to the Lord, I knew I needed to change that aspect because also too, because I was hearing the scripture. Was that scripture where out of the heart the mouth speaks, right? That scripture would pop up like, okay, out of the heart the mouth speaks. So whatever is in my heart is going to come out, right? So. And I was speaking these bad word, all these bad negative words.
[00:10:28] So I had to learn how to talk.
[00:10:31] And then I would read Proverbs and like, somewhere in the middle, it would talk about tongue, something about the tongue, something about the speech, the lips, the mouth. I'm like, dude, how important is my speech?
[00:10:44] How important is my speech in everyday life?
[00:10:48] So I, I, I dedicated my, my learning to learn how to read better, to read more. And at the time in coming to the Lord, I was just starting college. I had to take remedial reading classes because I, I was at an elementary level, you know, I was copying people's homework just to pass class. You know what I mean?
[00:11:09] When I began reading the Bible, I didn't know what a lot of the words meant. I was constantly looking in the dictionary, what does this mean? What does this mean? What does this mean? A very tedious process.
[00:11:19] And then eventually got to the point where I started learning more words. I was like, oh, okay, cool. I can use this word in this situation. Okay, I can use this word in this sit situation.
[00:11:27] So speech, Speech is important. So speak humbly. This is the la. That, that's the last thing. Let no corrupt speech proceed out of your mouth, but only what is good for building up others as the need may be your words of power. So we have to remember that our words are powerful.
[00:11:44] Are we?
[00:11:46] Think about what we're saying, Right? For me, I got adhd.
[00:11:50] Sometimes I blurt things out and it's hard and, and it's hard to restrain my speech. Sometimes I'm like, oh, shoot, why did I say that? Know it. And I have to go back and apologize, be like, well, I'm sorry I said that. You know, it just, it just came out. And, you know, I got to apologize for my speech sometimes, especially like in my marriage with my kids. Like, mija, I'm sorry I said that. I shouldn't have said that. I was wrong, you know, but speak humbly.
[00:12:17] Use words to build up or tear down. Learn how to be. Learn how to have gratitude towards others.
[00:12:23] Learn how to see the good work of others and learn how to say something about it, right? If you see somebody doing a good job, if you recognize them keeping their head down, doing their job, learn how to go up to and be like, hey man, I seen that you're doing a good job. And I, I noticed that. Thank you. You know what I mean? Say those types of words and learn how to come at a situation to where you're speaking words in humility, right?
[00:12:52] It makes me think of that proverb. Proverb.
[00:12:55] A word fitly spoken is like, like an apple of gold or something like that.
[00:13:02] Learn how to speak, when to speak, you know what I mean? When's the right time to say something? When's the right time to be quiet, you know what I mean? Because speech can be silence, you know, I mean, that's one of the things I learned in speech class and in music as well. Like, like there's the term in, in psalms where it says selah sela is like reflect. You know what I mean? Reflect. Listen. Speech can be a form of listening and, and responding. So silence could be the same thing too. Like, it makes me think about Jesus when he was, when he kept silent in front of Herod. Herod was asking him the questions, right? And Jesus didn't say a word.
[00:13:44] You know what I mean? Speak humbly. Use words that build up and not tear down. So learn how, how to, we got to learn how to use humility and speech. So here's the key takeaway. Here's one of the practical thing that you can do after the, after this video, before conflict, pray for a humble heart to de escalate tension.
[00:14:08] Pray, talk to God. Ask him. Ask him to help you. Ask him for your wisdom. God, grant me your wisdom to know how to go through this situation.
[00:14:17] If you know you're going to be in a situation where that person is going to be there to where that person is always wants to be, right? God, I'm going into this situation right now where this person's going to be there. I know they're going to want to be, right? Lord, help me to de escalate. Help me to, to. To speak humbly. Help me to use words that will cause that person to, to back, you know, not to back down, but to diffuse the situation, right?
[00:14:47] What is it, that proverb that talks about a king's wrath? A king's wrath is, is related to like how you answer somebody, like, how do you speak? I can't remember exactly, but it refers to speaking humbly. I can't remember at the moment. But anyways, before conflicts, pray for a humble heart to de escalate tension.
[00:15:09] And I want to know how you deal with pride in overcoming conflicts. What helps you?
[00:15:17] If you're an elder and you have some wisdom on this, share in the comments. There may be people that are going through the same situation and your your gem of wisdom can help them out. It can probably possibly help me out.
[00:15:29] So put it in the comments. Let me know how you've overcome this in Pride and conflicts before. What has helped you? How are you currently working on it? Here's another video on pride in Be helpful. Appreciate you guys. Thanks for watching. Bye.
