Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] This topic right here is the topic of ADD. I myself am ADD or adhd, whatever you want to call it. I lost track of it. Forgot. I forgot about it through my 20s and 30s, maybe late, maybe mid-30s is when I kind of remembered. Well, actually early 30s when I got married, I realized that's what. What I had and that. And why I am the way I am.
[00:00:29] There's a lot involved in it for me, and understanding how people like me fit in society or the way it is now in the Western world, or has been for the past 40 years, which is about as long as I've been alive, is that people like me don't fit into the society that we try to create for ourselves in, In America, in the Western world, South Texas mostly, which is where I'm from.
[00:01:06] And I know it's different. Like, my culture deals with people like me a certain way, and I'm sure other cultures deal with. With. With those people, those have, you know, whatever culture they're in, however they deal with those types of people.
[00:01:22] It's difficult for me in the workplace, difficult for me in school to try to fit in.
[00:01:31] When I try to fit in, it is difficult for me to be myself because there's. There's so many rules, there's so many constraints. And me personally, I'm like, if I try it like that, it's not going to work for me.
[00:01:48] So I just.
[00:01:55] So guess one of the things that. Really, one of the things that come to mind is, okay, we got to make. I got to make money in society, right? I want to be married in society, and I want to be married. I want to have kids. You know what I mean? I had those thoughts also. Like other people out there.
[00:02:12] It's just, I. I don't fit into the mode that society has created.
[00:02:18] It's a genetic thing. This is how I am. It's just. That's how my genetics are. My parents, somebody in my family had it, I have it. You know, and we're led to believe that there's something wrong with us because we do have it. Which is dumb because you're basically saying, oh, it's because of your genetics. It's like, well, dude, I can't do nothing about it. You know, it sucks to be in that boat when we live in a society that doesn't necessarily accept us, Society doesn't accept us.
[00:02:55] We're weird, we're out of place, we're out of pocket. Some of us try to hide it, and some of us make it far that way.
[00:03:05] For me, When I try, I, I, I go contrary to who I want to be, and it's difficult to do that.
[00:03:17] So I just like, okay, I'm not gonna do that.
[00:03:23] And I still, to this day, people, people make fun of me. Make, make this. You know, they chipper and chipper behind my back and chipper on the side of my ear. Because we know. We went to school with. Y'all went to school with people like me.
[00:03:40] What happens to us? We get bullied, we get casted out.
[00:03:47] Man, I'll never forget, I was in middle school. There's one, it was this one boy, one kid named Jonathan. He was like a white boy, like a white kid, you know, Caucasian, whatever you want to call it. I don't want to be sound racist or whatever, but he was, he was a white boy. Because in my school, there's nothing but Hispanics. It's probably like 60, 70% his, you know, Mex, Mexican Americans, Hispanic, whatever.
[00:04:09] 20%, maybe 30% black, African American, like 10% white.
[00:04:18] Well, this one dude, Jonathan, they always picked on this guy. They always bully. We always bullied him. I didn't bully him, but I seen him get bullied, you know what I mean? Throughout the school year and one day, homie just popped off and he started wailing on this one dude. Pull, pull, pull, pull, pull, pull, pull.
[00:04:39] Every. And everybody's like, d, look at Jonathan.
[00:04:44] You bullying, bullying bully. There you. That dude that's getting bullied. He's going to pop off. He's going to pop off.
[00:04:52] Nowadays, I know people, I know people are looking for people like me.
[00:04:58] They're looking for. They're looking for somebody to bully, somebody to pick on. So when I go into the gym or when I go into places, I look for them first.
[00:05:10] Going into the gym. You looking for me? I'm right here.
[00:05:14] I'm right here. You're looking for me? I'm right here. And they know that I'm looking them, and they try to be like, oh, how's it going? And I'm like, no, don't. I don't want you to tell me, hi, how's it going? He's like, oh, this one guy was like, oh, you don't want to know how to have a nice day? No, I don't want to have a nice day. I don't know you.
[00:05:33] And the reason why I came at him like that is because I knew he was trying to make me feel bad, trying to make, trying to make me part of his mold, which I'm just, I'm done with it, man, I'm done trying to fit in society and it sucks for. It sucks because I gotta live, I gotta go to work every day. And there's. And those same people that, that try to put me in their world when I was in high school, in college, they're in the workplace.
[00:06:01] Can't escape it. I can't escape it.
[00:06:05] So best thing for people like me is don't be in debt.
[00:06:12] So that way if you do lose your job for. Because people don't like you. Because I've been to places, I've been fired from places where people don't like me. They want me to fit in their mold and I'm just like, they want me to suck up to them, they want me to kiss their butt and be all up in the mix. Me, I just want to go to work, make my money and go home. I don't want to talk to nobody. I, I just want to do my thing and go home, be with my family, be with my kids and that's it.
[00:06:44] I gotta be. And I know I gotta be a part of society too.
[00:06:48] You know, I mean, people think that we're dumb just because we're, we're, we are the way that we are. Is it with ADD adhd.
[00:06:58] But we're not like, we're probably just as smart as the next person. It's just our brain is wired different from other people. And some people don't understand it, some people don't understand. They're. They're just like, he's slow or he's lazy. It's like, no, dude, my brain is wired different from you understand? I just want to grab him by the head like, dude, listen, I'm different and I don't use it as an excuse. My, I'm glad that my, my dad raised me to be that way to be like, no, you're going to work for. You're going to work, you're going to work hard, you're going to do your thing, you're going to earn.
[00:07:39] So I, I don't feel sorry for myself.
[00:07:42] Whenever I tried to feel sorry myself far for myself, my dad was like, nuh, look what you got.
[00:07:48] Look at what you have around you.
[00:07:51] He, he taught me like, no, you don't feel sorry for yourself. You keep going, you keep moving and, and don't let it bother you.
[00:08:00] So for people with, with ADD adhd, I'm just like, don't go into debt. Learn, Learn a skill that is valuable in the marketplace that if you get fired, you can go to another Job because that job is in demand. Me, I'm a truck driver. There's truck drivers everywhere.
[00:08:19] If I, if, if somebody at my job doesn't understand how my brain works or how the type of person that I am, they can fire me, fine, I'll go find another truck driving job.
[00:08:32] You know, I'm not in debt, I don't owe any money. So there's not that I'm not a slave to the bank and I could be able to, you know, take a hit for like a month or two or whatever to look for another job.
[00:08:48] So for, and, and it sucks because I want to say there is, there is racism out there, but not to the degree that some people make it. You know what I mean? So if you live like in kind of like in Texas, there's like, there's white people, country people, city people, you know, that they're racist. Like, you can feel it.
[00:09:13] They're courteous, you know, they're like, hello, yes, whatever, whatever. But you could tell when you walk away and when they're there with their group of friends, they're talking like, oh, that Mexican, this, that, whatever, whatever. Some of them, not all of them, but you can tell just same thing with my race. As soon as soon as the, the, the black guy walks away, the white guy walks away, we're there talking trash about him with our, with the other Mexicans, the other Hispanics. We know how it is.
[00:09:42] My point is, which, which, you know, if, if we're the black or the Mexican, if in, you know, in society there's going to be race. Not. But I'm not saying it's, it's, it's, it's not as big as the media makes it to be, as whatever side of the, the political spectrum makes it to be. I'm just saying if you know your stuff, if you got skill, if you know your stuff, you know what you're doing, you'll be able to find a job and you'll be able to work alongside those races that the people that are racist or prejudiced against you and you'll be able, you'll be able to lose your job just as fast as well. But if you have a skill that's in demand, you can go somewhere else and use that skill. They don't want you at that job. Just go to the next job.
[00:10:36] Get, get a, get a, get an engineering degree, something that's going to pay you a lot of money.
[00:10:42] You know what I mean? And that's, that's, that's the workplace for people with add, adhd. The other thing too is relationships.
[00:10:52] My wife is add also like me. So we, we kind of can relate to each other and in that sense. And, and, and it's, and you can tell who they are too, like in society. If, if a woman is kind of like. Because women have add, adhd, ADHD too, but they kind of mask it differently than men do or, or you know what I mean? Like a, a girl with add, if she masks it, if she's like, like, like playing along with society the way society wants her to be, whatever, it's easy for her to blend in for a woman to blend in for a man. It's hard for us because like, think about the, think about the little boys that are in classrooms. They're just jumping around, jumping all over the place. Girls don't do that, Boys do that. You know what I mean? So the, it's easy for us to be. Get recognized if we're trying to like blend in for girls. It's not, it's not as. But I'm. My point is like, we're able to, if we know that we have add, adhd and we've studied it and when you, we understand it, we're able to see it in both sexes, male and female.
[00:12:02] So when, when it's, if it's. Somebody like me is looking for a relationship, maybe somebody that's, that's has that in common, you know, that you can relate to, you know what I mean? You can be with that person, you know, hopefully for a lifelong commitment. Just like I married my wife and it's a lifelong commitment that we made with, with one another.
[00:12:24] So dating that when it comes to finding us, finding a wife, you know, there's, there's one thing you can look for because they, they understand the, the, the struggles of being, being the way we are.
[00:12:37] There are some women that, that, that stay stuck in that mask, you know, and they don't want to get out of it. They don't want to choose to be who they want to be, you know, who they are. They don't want to choose to want to be who they, who they are inside. They, you know, there's whether through peer pressure or whatever. So you got to find them. When it comes to relationships as men, we, we got to decide to have self control how to, how to not look at a woman lustfully with lustful intent. It's hard, bro, because you go to the gym, majority of the women out there are wearing tight, tight clothing, you know, and, and as a man, you want to look, we all know this. Women and men, we both know this. We're not dumb. We know that women are like that. You know, it's our, as men, as a man, it's, it's up to me to decide, okay? If I know that woman is over there looking like this, then I need to go the other direction.
[00:13:40] The other direction. It reminds me of that one passage in, in each. I think it's Exodus or whatever. Who is it?
[00:13:49] Joseph. When he, he was in Potiphar's house and Potiphar's wife was, you know, wanting Joseph to make a move on her, homie ran. He ran away from her.
[00:14:04] He ran. And in society, if you run, you're a coward. You're gay, you're, you're, you're homosexual.
[00:14:15] Oh, what's wrong with you, dude? How come you want to look at that girl? What are you, Are you, are you a certain way? Are you home? Are you homosexual? Are you gay?
[00:14:24] Right? That, that's how they treat, that's how they treat you. Whenever you, whenever you decide to have self control, you're treated like you treat. Which is, which is basically what the Bible calls, you know, a person to be the grain of salt.
[00:14:41] You know, the, the lamp that's on the hill.
[00:14:45] It, it's.
[00:14:48] We go, you go against the grain whenever you decide to do what's right.
[00:14:54] And I can see how for women it can be difficult because society is telling women, don't be with that guy. He doesn't make enough money.
[00:15:06] Don't, don't, don't date that, that bum. He doesn't make enough money.
[00:15:11] You want to date that guy who's got the most money. That's what society. And, and if you don't have that guy, society is going to tell you, oh no, you're dumb.
[00:15:23] That's what society is going to tell you. But the right thing to do might be to do is accept your, accept reality and be like, okay, who's around me?
[00:15:31] Where, where do I live at?
[00:15:34] Who, Who? You know what I'm saying? At the level that you are instead of looking too far. You know what I mean? And there's, there's tons of examples out there of women that try to go for that guy way up there and they ain't never got him.
[00:15:50] What about all the other dudes on the spectrum?
[00:15:54] You know what I'm saying? Or there's one that's like he, you know, it's like that one. It's like that, that one, that one guy or girl that, that in school with you. They may be add, ADHD or whatever. They're good looking. What wrong with him? You know what I mean? But you don't want to go date him because your group of girls is like, don't date him. He's. He's the slow guy. Why you want to date him for?
[00:16:18] You know what I mean? It's. It's. Society is. Is. It's a killer, man. It's a killer. Whenever we. We give into lust and. And these, these, these things.
[00:16:29] My son's right here. I gotta go. You guys stay tuned for the next few videos. If you like this video, like, subscribe and share. Appreciate y'all. Bye.
